1 proven strategy on how to bounce back after firing

1 proven strategy on how to bounce back after firing1 proven strategy on how to bounce back after firingGetting fired from your job is one of the most traumatic, stressful experiences that an employee can have in their career. The experience, though unpleasant, does leid need to be a career-killer. According to a 10-year CEO Genomestudyof over 2,600 leaders and360 executives highlighted in Harvard Business Review, what separated the people who never bounced back from the people who went on to have even more success was a difference in perspective.The researchers found that leaders who saw their setback as a failure were 50% less successful than those who took the experience as a learning and growth opportunity.Strong performers own their mistakes, and describe what they learned and how they adjusted their behavior and decision making to minimize the chances of making the same mistakes in the future, ghSMART researchers that compiled the data wrote. Having several different types of c areer blow ups does not derail you. Repeating the same blowup over and over does.Own your mistake so you can move on from itThe researchers found that participants who owned their mistakes instead of deflecting them or blaming others set themselves up for future success. Learning from a setback is a lesson you can take to heart even if you are not an executive being surveyed. Becoming self-aware of your limitations and strengths will help you learn how to conduct yourself in front of others. Once you can tell the story of your firing to yourself, you will be able to tell it in front of future recruiters without negative emotion. That can help you build confidence. The researchers found that confident candidates were more than twice as likely to be hired.If you see failure as a teacher instead of an insurmountable barrier, you can learn to listen to the lesson that it is trying to tell you.Media mogul Oprah Winfrey once advised students to see failure as a wakeup call that you need t o be moving in a different direction. Ask yourself what is this here to teach me? And as soon as you get the lesson, you get to move on, she said. If you really get the lesson, you pass and you dont have to repeat the class.

How to distinguish a psychopath from a shy-chopath

How to distinguish a gefhrlicher irrer from a shy-chopathHow to distinguish a psychopath from a shy-chopathWhat makes a criminal a psychopath?Their grisly deeds and commanding presence attract our attention look no further than teddy boy Bundy, the subject of a recent Netflix documentary, and cult leaders like Charles Manson.Follow Ladders on FlipboardFollow Ladders magazines on Flipboard covering Happiness, Productivity, Job Satisfaction, Neuroscience, and moraBut despite years of theorizing and research, the mental health field continues to hotly debate what are the defining features of this diagnosis. It might come as a surprise that the most widely used psychiatric diagnostic system in the U.S., the DSM-5, doesnt include psychopathy as a formal disorder.As a personality researcher and forensic psychologist, Ive spent the last quarter-century studying psychopaths inside and outside of prisons. Ive also debated what, exactly, are the defining features of psychopathy.Most agree tha t psychopaths are remorseless people who lack empathy for others. But in recent years, much of this debate has centered on the relevance of one particular personality trait boldness.Im in the camp that believes boldness is critical to separating out psychopaths from the more mundane law-breakers. Its the trait that creates the veneer of normalcy, giving those who prey on others the mask to successfully blend in with the rest of society. To lack boldness, on the other hand, is to be what one might call a shy-chopath.The boldness factorAbout 10 years ago, psychologist Christopher Patrick and some of his colleagues published an extensive literature review in which they argued that psychopaths were people who expressed elevated levels of three basic traits meanness, disinhibition and boldness.Most experts in the mental health field generally agree that the prototypical psychopath is someone who is both mean and, at least to some extent, disinhibited though theres even some debate about exactly how impulsive and hot-headed the prototypical psychopath truly is.In a psychological context, people who are mean tend to lack empathy and have little interest in close emotional relationships. Theyre also happy to use and exploit others for their own personal gain.Highly disinhibited people have very poor impulse control, are prone to boredom and have difficulty managing emotions particularly negative ones, like frustration and hostility.In adding boldness to the mix, Patrick and his colleagues argued that genuine psychopaths are leid just mean and disinhibited, theyre also individuals who are poised, fearless, emotionally resilient and socially dominant.Although it had not been the focus of extensive research for the past few decades, the concept of the bold psychopath isnt actually new. Famed psychiatrist Hervey Cleckley described it in his seminal 1941 book, The Mask of Sanity, in which he described numerous case examples of psychopaths who were brazen, fearless and em otionally unflappable.Ted Bundy is an excellent example of such a person. He was far from unassuming and timid. He never appeared wracked with anxiety or emotional distress. He charmed scores of victims, confidently served as his own attorney and even proposed to his girlfriend while in court.Its probably just being willing to take risk, Bundy said, in the Netflix documentary, of what motivated his crimes. Or perhaps not even seeing risk. Just overcome by that boldness and desire to accomplish a particular thing.Seeds planted in the DSMIn the current DSM, the closest current diagnosis to psychopathy is antisocial personality disorder. Although the manual suggests that it historically has been referred to as psychopathy, the current seven diagnostic criteria for antisocial personality disorder mostly fall under the umbrella of disinhibition qualities like recklessness, impulsiveness and, to a lesser extent, meanness, which are evident in only two criteria lack of remorse and deceitf ulness.Theres no mention of boldness. In other words, you dont have to be bold to have antisocial personality disorder. In fact, because you only need to meet three of the seven criteria to be diagnosed with the disorder, it means you dont even need to be all that mean, either.However, the most recent revision to the DSM, the fifth edition, did include a supplemental section for proposed diagnoses in need of further study.In this supplemental section, a new specifier was offered for those who meet the diagnosis for antisocial personality disorder. If you have a bold and fearless interpersonal style that seems to serve as a mask for your otherwise mean and disinhibited personality, you might also be diagnosable as a psychopath.Can a psychopath be meek?Whether this new model, which seems to put boldness center stage in the diagnosis of psychopathy, ultimately will be adopted into subsequent iterations of the DSM system remains to be seen.Several researchers have criticized the concept . They see meanness and disinhibition as much more important than boldness when deciding whether someone is a psychopath.Their main issue seems to be that people who are bold but not mean or disinhibited actually seem to be well-adjusted and not particularly violent. In fact, compared with being overly introverted or prone to emotional distress, it seems to be an asset in everyday life.Other researchers, myself included, tend to view those criticisms as not particularly compelling. In our view, someone who is simply disinhibited and mean but not bold would not be able to pull off the spectacular level of manipulation that a psychopath is capable of.To be sure, being mean and disinhibited is a bad combination. But absent boldness, youre probably not going to show up on the evening news for having schemed scores of investors out of hundreds of millions of dollars. The chances that youll successfully charm unsuspecting victim after unsuspecting victim into coming back to your apart ment to sexually assault them seem pretty slim.That being said, timid but mean people the shycho-paths almost certainly do exist, and its probably best to stay away from them, too.But youre unlikely to confuse them with the Ted Bundys and Charles Mansons of the world.John Edens, Professor of Psychology, Texas AM University This article is republished from The Conversation under a Creative Commons license. Read the original article.You might also enjoyNew neuroscience reveals 4 rituals that will make you happyStrangers know your social class in the first seven words you say, study finds10 lessons from Benjamin Franklins daily schedule that will double your productivityThe worst mistakes you can make in an interview, according to 12 CEOs10 habits of mentally strong people

Around the Web Coping with Job Loss

Around the Web Coping with Job LossAround the Web Coping with Job LossA list of mental-health Web sites to turn to if you have stress and anxiety related to your job search.No single article can cover all the physiological and psychological effects of losing a job and facing a prolonged job search. If you find yourself interested in more, there are great resources on the Web that can provide more in-depth information on specific topics as well as direction on how to seek help if you need it.Anxiety Disorders Association of AmericaDedicated to the prevention, treatment and cure of anxiety disorders, the Anxiety Disorders Association of America (ADAA) Web site provides descriptions of different anxiety disorders, self-tests, recommendations for treatment, resources and case studies.adaa.org/BrainSource.comYour brain on stress is described at BrainSource.com, which also provides tools and resources for coping with stress.brainsource.com/stress__health.htmHelpGuide.orgHelpGuide.org is a site designed to help people understand, prevent and resolve lifes challenges. The site provides information on the symptoms and types of depression, as well as recommendations for where to find help.helpguide.org/mental/depression_signs_types_diagnosis_treatment.htmMayo ClinicAn adjustment disorder is a severe emotional reaction to a life change. The Mayo Clinics Web site offers valuable information on the symptoms, causes, risk factors, complications and treatment for adjustment disorders, as well as advice on prevention and when to seek medical advice.mayoclinic.com/health/adjustment-disorders/DS00584MedlinePlus.comA service of the National Library of Medicine and the National Institute of Health, MedlinePlus provides information to help answer health-related questions. The site provides useful recommendations for managing stress as well as an interactive tutorial that illustrates how stress affects the bodys systems.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/stress.html